Four Ways To Live A Drama Free Life

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Four Ways To Live A Drama Free Life

I don’t do drama. I just absolutely refuse to get involved in that mess. 

Here are some reasons why:

Drama is waste of my time. Life is way too short to get tangled up in in a bunch of stuff that is not going to move the ball forward. 

Drama causes pain for me and for others. There have been times when I’ve put myself in the middle of some issues that I did not need to and every time I have, it explodes right back in my face.

The other reason I stay out of the DRAMA game is because God is not into drama.

Romans 12:8

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

 

Here are 4 ways I live a drama free life.

1. I control what I can control.

There are a lot of things in life I can’t control. I cant control what you think of me. I can’t control what you say about me. I can’t control what you facebook about me or how you act toward me.

I can’t control anything about anyone else … but I can control me.

So when it comes to drama, when things don’t go my way, or someone does something that I don’t like, or does something in a way I don’t appreciate … I do what only I can do. I control me.

 

2. I look in the mirror because I’m not perfect either.

I am addicted to Soda. I’m a little overweight. If not careful I have a tendency to yell. I’m not the best with money and to be honest I think I can come across as and actually am pretty rude sometimes. I am anything but perfect in fact, I have some real deep seeded issues.

Because of this, it would be pretty hypocritical of me when someone does something they should not do – to sit here and point fingers at people or post some mean stuff on facebook putting someone else “in their place” when I know in my heart that every time I look in the mirror I am looking at someone just as bad and maybe even worse than they are. So looking in the mirror helps me keep my mouth shut and my fingers from typing words I will later regret.

 

3. I talk to the person. 

Mathew 18:15

“If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back.”

Scripture teaches that if I have someone that does something against me (something that ticks me off) it is my job to go to that person privately and talk to them about what happened. If they listen – which they probably will because I handled it in the right way – then everything is good.

This is very tough to do, because nobody likes one on one confrontation. I’m pretty brave driving home in the car replaying in my mind what I would say to that person if “I had the chance. I can be very brave sitting in front of the computer or grabbing my phone to text an individual that is not sitting right in front of me.

But if I want the drama to diminish, I will talk to the person. 

 

4. I keep my problems off my Social Media Walls.

I am a fairly private person. I don’t have very many friends inside of my inner circle. I don’t like for people to know when I’m hurt, ticked or facing some issues, so keeping private issues off social media, isn't hard for me. I just keep my problems off of Facebook. I, also don’t comment on other peoples “problems” on Facebook or Twitter either. You will never see me involved in a facebook war or argument. It’s not going to happen because I don’t want the drama.

Now even though I have not always walked these steps out perfectly, I have found that if I control what only I can control, look in the mirror, talk to the person face to face, and keep my issues off of Facebook, that I can live a pretty drama free life. I think you will too. 

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Five Ways to Build a Great Team

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Five Ways to Build a Great Team

We all want to do something bigger and better than how we are currently doing them. In order for this to happen we have to not just build a team … we have to build a great team. In this blog I will give you seven things you need to do in order to build a great team.

1. Stop being the hero.

People sign on to be a part of a team because THEY want to be needed, they want to be significant, they want to be the hero. If you are the hero – that means they cannot be and if they cannot be the hero, they won’t be on your team for long. Stop being the hero of your ministry or organization. Let someone else lead the worship team, allow someone else to plan all the outings, train up another leader to run your media ministry, website or outreach organizations. Take off the cape and let someone else be the superman of their department or area.

2. Define your needs.

People cannot do a job with excellence if they are not clear on what the job actually is. Clearly define what your needs and expectations are of the department they are serving in.

3. Recruit Reflexively.

By reflexive I mean, that it happens automatically, without you having to do a bunch of extra work to get it done. Here are some questions you need to answer when it comes to recruiting. How do people hear about our ministry or organization? What time of the year is best to do a recruiting push? How do they sign up to be a part? Will we do big corporate pushes, small grass roots pushes or both? What do this pushes look like? What is the step by step process the potential volunteer or worker needs to take in order to join the team? Who do I currently have on my team to run this recruiting process for me?

4. Equip Properly.

What general information does each of your team members need to know about your ministry or organization? (Vision - Mission - Values) What detailed information does each of your team members need to know about the department they are serving in? Get both of these pieces of information into your workers hands early on in their journey as one of your team members.

Remember people joined your ministry / organization because they want to be the hero, they want to do their job well. There is no way people do their job with excellence, if they do not have access to the tools they need to be successful. It is your job as a leader to make sure that each of your team members are equipped with all the information, inspiration, tools and toys that are needed to do their job effectively. If you do not equip them properly they will quickly become frustrated and quit the team.

5. Train Thoroughly.

Training comes by modeling what needs to be done and allowing them to slowly grow into the position of leading themselves. A great way to train your team is by the Jesus Principle. 

Step One - I do 

Step Two - We do 

Step Three - You do and I watch 

Step Four - You do

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Ten Steps Towards BETTER

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Ten Steps Towards BETTER

Does your family, finances, faith, business, or ministry need to get better?

There once was a man named Nehemiah who had a city (Jerusalem) that needed to get better in almost every way.  In looking at what Nehemiah did to improve a city that was near and dear to his heart, you and I will discover the steps we need to make whats near to our better! 

1. See the need.

Nehemiah 1:1-3    The words of Nehemiah the son of Hacaliah. Now it happened in the month of Chislev, in the twentieth year, as I was in Susa the citadel, that Hanani, one of my brothers, came with certain men from Judah. And I asked them concerning the Jews who escaped, who had survived the exile, and concerning Jerusalem. And they said to me, “The remnant there in the province who had survived the exile is in great trouble and shame. The wall of Jerusalem is broken down, and its gates are destroyed by fire.”

2. Feel the burden.

Nehemiah 1:4    As soon as I heard these words I sat down and wept and mourned for days, and I continued fasting and praying before the God of heaven. 

3. Take ownership of personal mistakes. 

Nehemiah 1:6-7   let your ear be attentive and your eyes open, to hear the prayer of your servant that I now pray before you day and night for the people of Israel your servants, confessing the sins of the people of Israel, which we have sinned against you. Even I and my father's house have sinned. We have acted very corruptly against you and have not kept the commandments, the statutes, and the rules that you commanded your servant Moses.

4. Ask for God's help. 

Nehemiah 1:11   O Lord, let your ear be attentive to the prayer of your servant, and to the prayer of your servants who delight to fear your name, and give success to your servant today, and grant him mercy in the sight of this man.”

5. Develop a plan.  - and - 6. Build strategic partnerships. 

Nehemiah 2:1-9   In the month of Nisan, in the twentieth year of King Artaxerxes, when wine was before him, I took up the wine and gave it to the king. Now I had not been sad in his presence.  And the king said to me, “Why is your face sad, seeing you are not sick? This is nothing but sadness of the heart.” Then I was very much afraid. I said to the king, “Let the king live forever! Why should not my face be sad, when the city, the place of my fathers' graves, lies in ruins, and its gates have been destroyed by fire?” Then the king said to me, “What are you requesting?” So I prayed to the God of heaven. And I said to the king, “If it pleases the king, and if your servant has found favor in your sight, that you send me to Judah, to the city of my fathers' graves, that I may rebuild it.” And the king said to me (the queen sitting beside him), “How long will you be gone, and when will you return?” So it pleased the king to send me when I had given him a time. And I said to the king, “If it pleases the king, let letters be given me to the governors of the province Beyond the River, that they may let me pass through until I come to Judah,  and a letter to Asaph, the keeper of the king's forest, that he may give me timber to make beams for the gates of the fortress of the temple, and for the wall of the city, and for the house that I shall occupy.” And the king granted me what I asked, for the good hand of my God was upon me.

7. Take a closer look. 

Nehemiah 2:11-15   So I went to Jerusalem and was there three days. Then I arose in the night, I and a few men with me. And I told no one what my God had put into my heart to do for Jerusalem. There was no animal with me but the one on which I rode. I went out by night by the Valley Gate to the Dragon Spring and to the Dung Gate, and I inspected the walls of Jerusalem that were broken down and its gates that had been destroyed by fire. Then I went on to the Fountain Gate and to the King's Pool, but there was no room for the animal that was under me to pass. Then I went up in the night by the valley and inspected the wall, and I turned back and entered by the Valley Gate, and so returned.

8. See what the problem is, but speak about what the future will be. 

Nehemiah 2:17  Then I said to them, “You see the trouble we are in: Jerusalem lies in ruins, and its gates have been burned with fire. Come, let us rebuild the wall of Jerusalem, and we will no longer be in disgrace.”

9. Talk to the problem, not about it. 

Nehemiah 2:19-20   But when Sanballat the Horonite, Tobiah the Ammonite official and Geshem the Arab heard about it, they mocked and ridiculed us. “What is this you are doing?” they asked. “Are you rebelling against the king?” I answered them by saying, “The God of heaven will give us success. We his servants will start rebuilding, but as for you, you have no share in Jerusalem or any claim or historic right to it.”

10. Roll up your sleeves and get to work. 

Nehemiah 2:18    “Let us start rebuilding.” So they began this good work.

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What Should You Do When Going Through A Trial?

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What Should You Do When Going Through A Trial?

1. Embrace It

This trial is going to make you stronger. So don't ignore it, justify it or try and wish it away. Embrace the reality of your situation. 

2. Realize and Believe That God is Bigger Than Your Trial

There is no other name above the name of Jesus. You have to realize and believe this ... HE is bigger, faster and stronger than anything you will ever face.

3. Speak Positively and Not Negatively to Yourself and Others Over Your Situation.

You set the tone for your day by what you say. So make sure you are saying positive things and not negative things about your situation.

4. Stand on God's Word

Find two Scriptures that promise victory in your situation and speak them every time a negative thought comes into your mind.

5. Do the Right Thing Every Day Regardless of How It Feels.

There is not a whole lot to say about this. Just do the right thing and your right actions will lead you to right results.

6. Go Through the Trial

Successful people go through tough times all of the time. That is what makes them successful ... they GO THROUGH their problem. You will not stay here forever! So GO THROUGH whatever situation you are in. 

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Giving

Hey my name is David Jimenez and I am so excited about this weekend at The CHURCH because we are talking about Giving. I love the topic of giving.  I get it; money can be a touchy subject especially when it comes to giving it away! We work so hard to earn it, so why give it away? Why does God place such emphasis on giving? How much should we give? Why does God need our money? Giving is probably one of the most misunderstood aspects of our Christian walk. When we truly understand the essence of giving it becomes a “game changer!”  God wants nothing from us rather he desires everything for us.

The truth is, God doesn’t need our money. He is the creator; he owns it all! So why does God ask us to give 10% of our income to Him? The tithe is a scriptural mandate, created for our benefit. Through tithing God teaches us how to live a prosperous life. God challenges us to give and when we do, He promises to deliver.

Malachi 3:10 says, “Bring the full tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. And thereby put me to the test, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need.”  The verse begins with: “Bring the full tithe…” as in to give 10% of your whole income. I think it’s important to note that it is 10% of your whole income not just 10% percent of part of your income.  We also see, God giving instructions to bring the tithe “into the storehouse,” which is the local church. When we tithe God promises to bless us beyond our expectations. He says, “and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need.”  It’s safe to say, tithing is the formula to being blessed over time.

What I love so much about giving is how profound it is.  At its core, giving is a test of our heart. We are challenged to bring 10% of our whole income to the local church, so that the church has the resources necessary to reach others in need. God asks for 10% of an income that isn’t even ours to begin with. Like Psalms 24:1 says: “The earth is the Lord’s, and the fullness thereof.” We are nearly asset managers for the Lord. So if we view it properly, we aren’t giving our own money away to begin with! 

How awesome is it to know that when we tithe the creator of the universe will not only meet our needs, but whenever there is more need His supply will be there waiting. If you don’t already tithe, try it. Take the challenge, I promise it works every time! 

Here are a few tips that you can walk out this week.

1-Take advantage of some incredible resources that TheCHURCH provides:

-Confidential one-on-one financial coaching. Sign up for free, simply email us at: thechurchatvisalia@gmail.com

- Financial Peace 9 week study. Financial Peace will walk you through the basics of budgeting, dumping debt, planning for the future and much more! Sign up by emailing us at: thechurchatvisalia@gmail.com

2-Take the 90 day tithing challenge at The CHURCH

-We know giving is a huge step of obedience, but you’re not alone. We’d love to come along side you as you take this next step. Take the challenge by clicking here. (http://welcometothechurch.com/90-day-giving-challenge/)

3-Be at The CHURCH this weekend!

-Join us in discovering what Giving has to do with True Christianity.

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Serving.

Hey, my name is Scott Kindy and I oversee our Next Steps here at The Church. I’m so excited about this upcoming Sunday at The Church; we’re in the middle of our series, “True Christianity,” and this weekend the message will be all about serving. See, I grew up a Christian — well at least I thought I did — I actually just grew up going to church. I thought if I prayed to God, if I read a devotional every morning or if I went to church every weekend, I was being Christ-like, but that’s not the case. Jesus didn't only spend time alone talking to his Father, reading the ancient text or going to the Temple every week. No, He did something more, something many of us think is beneath us, He served. The creator of the universe came down in the form of a servant to help people in need;  Jesus fed people, taught people and most of all, served people by sacrificing His life. If we want to be called Christians, we should do what Jesus did — use our time and our spiritual gifts to serve people.

The Bible says in Romans 12: 4-6  “For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.”  Paul is telling us we make up the body of Christ and we have been blessed with a gift to add or support that body. In 1 Peter 4:10, Peter explains, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in his various forms.” 

These two verses lay out a clear path for Christians. We must serve one another with the gifts that God has blessed us with. Each of us make up the body of The Church, but it only functions when every part of the body is doing its part.

Here at The Church at Visalia we have a saying, “Be The Church,” which means to serve with the gift God has blessed you with. If you have a passion for music, the worship team could be a great place for you. More of a behind the scenes kind-of person? See what the lighting and sound crew is all about. Maybe you love the idea of cuddling babies for an hour during a Sunday service on our KidsCare team or your God-given talent is that outgoing personality and hospitality, perfect for leading a community group. Whatever that gift may be, we want to help you walk out your faith and serve others here at The Church. So how do we walk this out? Well, that’s where the Next Steps comes in. 

Here are some ways to start your journey and “Be The Church”:

1. Fill out a response card or meet with Pastor Kevin or myself in the Lobby and we’ll get you on to your Next Step.

2. Community Groups - This is where you can meet new people and help each other learn more about the Bible.

3. Ownership Class - Become part of the Body.

4. Serving - We’ll get you connected with one of the ministries here at The Church that best fits the Gifts you've been blessed with.

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