How can I have less stress?
If you want less drama and more peace.
If you want to have less stress and more smiles.
If you want less conflict in your family.
Here is a good rule of thumb...Mind Your Own Business.
If you and I will simply mind our own business and keep our nose out of other peoples mess, our conflict level will go way down.
Paul talks about this in I Timothy 5:13-15 when he was teaching his protege’ on how to deal with a certain group of young woman in their congregation.
I Timothy 5:13-15
“Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to. So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander. Some have in fact already turned away to follow Satan.”
Paul is saying, Timothy there is this group of woman that if left to their own devices will become nothing but busybodies, going from house to house seeing what everyone else is doing. Taking information from one person to another and doing nothing but getting up in other peoples mess.
Paul encourages Timothy to tell these ladies to get married and start managing their own house. In other words, “mind your own business”. Quit getting in other peoples lives and opening the door for the enemy to come in and cause arguments, stress and strife.
Now, if we are honest with ourselves, we spend hours every week talking about how someone else is living their life. We like these ladies, thru Facebook, phone calls, and text messages, get the down low and all of the details of how Uncle Eddie is living or what Cousin so and so is doing.
We get so angry, uptight and conflicted about how they spend their money, how they live their life and the choices they have been making. But the truth of the matter is, how they are living and what they are doing has no effect on us at all. It doesn’t effect us in anyway shape or form, until we decide to get in the middle of it.
When we start making comments. When we start talking to to other people. When we chat it up with friends and family about all the details that we know. When we give our opinion about what has been going on, Uncle so and so hears about it. He then gets hurt. He gets upset and then starts saying things to other people about us and now we have pulled ourself and our family right in the middle of someone else’s conflict.
We waste so much of our time worrying about, talking about and thinking about “them”.
We would have a lot less stress if we chose to listen to Paul’s advice and “Mind our own business”.
Join us this Sunday for week two of Family Series.
9AM or 11AM at the Visalia Convention Center & 6PM at Cafe 210 Downtown Visalia.
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